Parenting is a huge responsibility, and we all want the best for our children, but there is a lot of conflicting advice out there about how to do it right. And the pandemic has made every aspect of parenthood more complicated and more fraught, with parents managing complex new assignments and anxious new decisions, all while handling the regular questions that arise in daily life with the children we care about. Prioritizing your family’s needs, juggling tasks, and quickly switching between your children, other family members, and yourself are all important aspects of the circus act of parenting. If there is a single authority that modern parents can turn to, it is the internet. It’s difficult to put your faith in anyone or anything these days. It is possible to raise a child whom you admire without losing yourself in the process of raising him or her.

Your Parenting Style

No matter how you decide to raise a child, you are not alone.

Research shows that being authoritative rather than authoritarian is more effective in raising a self-reliant child with high self-esteem. Children should respect and trust their parents instead of fearing them. You don’t want to be a helicopter parent, but you also don’t want to be unsupportive.

All of these goals are simple to set but difficult to accomplish. Is there a way to strike a healthy balance?

Consistent, firm, and loving approaches should be maintained as your child grows, regardless of the challenges they face. The more effort you put in, the more confident you become and the more prepared you are to take on new challenges. If you have an infant learning to sleep through the night, a toddler helping to put toys away, or an older child resolving conflicts, calibrate your expectations about what they can do on their own.

Keep in mind that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to raising a child. Don’t give up, have faith in your abilities, and take pleasure in your relationship with the little person in your life.

Conquering the Basics

Your children’s health will be directly influenced by your healthy attitude toward sleep, food, and discipline.

How to Put a Baby to Sleep

Babies’ sleep schedules can vary widely from the time they are born. Parents, on the other hand, deal with interrupted sleep in a variety of ways.

After the first few months of their lives, many parents find themselves tossing and turning over whether or not to soothe their baby to sleep or not, and it’s not uncommon for them to do so. In helping babies learn to fall asleep on their own and to soothe themselves back to sleep when they wake up during the night, many sleep experts argue that parents are helping them master vital skills for both comfort and independence.

There are two ways to accomplish this:

Babies are allowed to cry for short periods, spaced out over several nights, in a technique known as “graduated extinction.”

The practice of delaying the child’s bedtime by 15 minutes at a time, intending to increase the child’s tiredness.

It’s also common to hear from parents who say that these methods improve the sleep patterns of their children and themselves. The idea of letting a crying baby sleep at night isn’t universally accepted by all parents.

Remember that some babies, no matter how hard you try, will not consistently sleep well. Parents need to be aware of what sleep deprivation is doing to them, their level of functioning, their relationships, and take their sleep needs seriously as well When in doubt, seek help from your pediatrician or a trusted friend or family members, such as a neighbor or family member.

Bedtime

When it comes to sleep, the rules for older kids are more straightforward: turn off electronics, read aloud, and create bedtime rituals that assist young children in relaxing and drifting off to sleep. In elementary school, the importance of regular bedtime routines and consistent sleep patterns increases as children are expected to be alert during school hours. Getting enough sleep regularly and arriving at school well-rested will benefit grade-school children’s academic performance and social behavior. As children get older, it becomes increasingly important to keep screens out of the bedroom (and turned off during the hours before bed), and it’s also a good habit to get into as an adult. Children’s sleep schedules helped them stay on track even when education was cut off during the pandemic.

When your child reaches adolescence, her circadian rhythm changes, making her more likely to stay up later and go to bed later, which is problematic because many schools now require students to arrive at school earlier. For teens who have trouble sleeping, good family “sleep hygiene,” especially when it comes to screens at night and in the bedroom, can help. Parents who take their children’s health and happiness seriously by making sleep a priority are sending a powerful message.

How to Feed Your Child

Feeding your child is one of the most fundamental aspects of being a parent. There are still decisions to be made while breastfeeding. (Yes, spicy food can be eaten by nursing mothers if they like it.) Nursing should not be the first response to any crying or crying out from an infant.) For the first six months of a baby’s life, pediatricians recommend breastfeeding exclusively and then gradually introducing a variety of solid foods. Women who are nursing in the workplace should be given special consideration and support by their employers, but this is not always the case. Breastfeeding mothers, on the other hand, are often made to feel inadequate if they are unable to meet those standards.

Breastfeeding is a personal decision that should be made based on the needs of the mother and her family. In the first year of eating solids, between the ages of 6 and 18 months, you can give children a variety of foods to taste and try, and you may find that by offering repeated tastes, children expand their range.

When it comes to their eating habits, young children can be anything from voracious and omnivorous to incredibly finicky and difficult to feed at times. She will learn about texture, taste, and independence by “playing” with her food, so let her feed herself as soon as possible. It’s important to start teaching children about food in the context of family time and to model how to eat a diverse range of healthy foods while conversing with one another. When children are eating, they should not be staring at a screen or any other electronic device.) Rather than constantly “grazing” or “sipping,” parents worry about picky eaters and children who eat too much and gain weight too quickly. You want your child to learn to enjoy real foods rather than processed snacks, to consume food only when hungry, and not use food as a reward or punishment.

Don’t make mealtime a battleground for a picky eater, but don’t turn it into a battleground every day.

There are a few things you can do to get started:

  • Discuss the concept of “eating the rainbow” with young children by encouraging them to pile their plates high with a variety of colorful foods (orange squash, red peppers, yellow corn, green anything, and so on).
  • You can take them to the farmers’ market or the grocery store and let them pick out something new that they’d like to try.
  • Allow them to assist you in the preparation of the meal they’ll be eating.
  • Be open to new ways of using the foods they like (peanut butter on almost anything, tomato sauce on spinach).
  • In a dumpling or on top of pasta, some children are willing to eat almost anything.
  • Invite others to try a taste of what they’re eating.
  • When your child refuses to eat anything you put in front of them, you need to have a backup plan in place. When it comes to children, many restaurants will prepare a simple pasta or rice dish off the menu.

Don’t be afraid to try new things with your child; don’t rule anything out after a few tries. In addition, if your child has a favorite green vegetable, feel free to serve it repeatedly.

In the end, don’t worry too much about your child’s development.

Even amid adolescence, the importance of family meals cannot be overstated. Even during middle school and high school’s scheduling complexities, keep that social context for food. Talk and eat together at the dinner table, even if you can’t see each other. Even though the pandemic provided some families with more opportunities to gather around the table for family meals, if recent stress has led your family to rely more on snacks and fast food, you are not alone. The best way to reset as a family is to keep a supply of healthy foods on hand, eat meals together, and build relationships over food.

How to Discipline

As uncivilized as they are, young children necessitate a certain amount of discipline on the part of their parents. You must be patient and consistent when dealing with toddlers, which means repeatedly stating and enforcing the same rules. Some children respond well to “time outs,” and parents should be on the lookout for those times when they, too, require one. Take a deep breath if you’re feeling as out of control as your child is. The pandemic has put a lot of strain on parents, so make sure you’re taking care of yourself and getting help if you need it.

If you can avoid the conflict by redirecting the child’s behavior, you don’t have to win a moral victory every time he or she misbehaves. The overall disciplinary message to young children is that you don’t like their behavior, but you do love them.

Instead of punishing, think of rewarding good behavior. Children who are physically disciplined, such as being spanked or hit, are more likely to engage in aggressive behavior. A parent’s win is always when they can set up a situation where their child gains privileges (such as screen time) through good behavior rather than losing them as a consequence. Look for positive behaviors that can be praised and rewarded, and young children will want to do it again and again. Even so, there will be times when you have to be the “bad cop” and say no or stop something your child wants, and that’s okay; it’s part of parenting. “I’m your mother/father, and I’m not your friend,” your parents have always told you.

Instead of trying to legislate our children’s thoughts, we should focus on regulating their behavior — or helping them regulate their own.

It’s fine to dislike your brother or classmate, but don’t physically harm him or her.

Angry or frustrated feelings are fine, as long as you act appropriately.

As parents, our “civilizing” task may be easier if we acknowledge the strength of those difficult emotions and celebrate the child who gains control over them. Take advantage of the opportunity to show what you do when you’ve gone off the rails: Apologize from the heart as a parent.

As a parent, it’s important to remember that we’ve all been through extraordinary times and that any child who is upset or frustrated because an activity has been canceled or interrupted should not feel bad about it. The pandemic, not the child’s feelings, is what is “wrong” or “bad,” not the child’s feelings.

Social Issues

Parenting in the Time of Covid

Being a parent right now means dealing with a lot of stress. A pandemic world where new information has to be digested and responded to regularly is what you’re assisting children with. Helping a child overcome their fear of the outside world or enforcing safety rules may be your primary goal, depending on the age of the child. You may be dealing with financial hardships, concerns about vulnerable family members, or grief over the loss of loved ones. Parenting has also become more difficult because of the weight of the daily decisions that must be made. Take care of yourself as much as you can while you’re dealing with difficult times, and don’t forget to care for your children.

Anger, sadness, or fear? Consider your coping mechanisms and reach out for additional support if necessary: to a partner, to close friends and family who love and support you, to your spiritual community, to a doctor, or someone in the mental health field. Recognize that parents have had to deal with a difficult and, at times, impossible set of “assignments,” and that, in caring for their children, they have responded in large part with everyday heroism. But they also need to take care of themselves.

Bullying

As a parent, you can help your children deal with both bullying and conflict, but you’ll be most effective if you know which of the two you’re trying to tackle first. Children who are the victims of bullying have no way to defend themselves, whereas children who are engaged in conflict find it difficult to get along. When kids get into fights with each other, it’s usually because they’re in a group of people who aren’t on the same page.

Assuring children who are being bullied that they deserve support and should tell an adult about what’s happening is critical. Encourage your children to stand up for others who are being bullied and not be complicit in it. There are three things you can expect from your kid if he or she is being bullied: to confront the bully, to stay by his or her side, and to report what they are doing to an adult.

It’s important to teach children conflict resolution skills, such as asserting one’s rights without infringing on the rights of others. For this, you can model assertiveness rather than aggression in the inevitable family disagreements that arise, and you can teach your children to do the same when they confront their peers.

Morality

All parents aspire to raise children who will be good citizens of the world. You must be concerned about how your child will treat others and how he or she will conduct themselves in the world. Regular attendance at a religious institution allows families to reflect on their values and teach children that those beliefs are held by members of a larger community that extends beyond their own.

Celebrating religious holidays, even if no one in the family has strong spiritual convictions, can serve as an important tether in the web of family life. Children benefit from both structure and warmth provided by their parents, but even the most diligent parents may be unable to achieve both of these consistently. Many religious traditions have rituals and traditions that can bring families together in a meaningful and lasting way. Even if you don’t attend church, you can teach your children your values by doing things like helping an elderly neighbor or volunteering for a cause that matters to you.

Children, on the other hand, pick up their values by watching you live them out.

Academic Pressure

Parenting can be a challenge when it comes to balancing the desire to see your children succeed academically with the desire to avoid putting them under undue pressure or stress. When parents help their children focus on improving rather than proving their abilities, they reap the benefits at every stage of their development. Furthermore, children should realize that their intelligence is only a starting point and can be developed through hard work.

For many children, the pandemic was a learning experience unlike any other, especially those with learning differences and special needs. However, this is a problem that affects everyone. Children who have been absent from school for an extended period must be allowed to make up lost time, and they must be given the assurance that they can ask for help if they need it, so that they understand that the most important thing is the knowledge and understanding they gain, not some rigid schedule.

Children who adopt this growth mindset – the psychological term for the belief that effort is the path to mastery – are less stressed than peers who believe their capacities are fixed, and they outperform them academically. Stu

The students who have a growth mindset are eager to receive constructive criticism and are inspired by the success of their peers.

You can encourage students to have a growth mindset by praising effort rather than intelligence as they go through school. (As schools reopen and students return following their experiences with remote or hybrid education, this may be more important than ever.) When they succeed, congratulate them on their hard work and persistence. I’m proud of you!” The grade you received on the test is based on what you knew about the subject matter at the time you took it.” We don’t know how far you can go in that field. Do not give up and do not stop asking for clarification. “It’ll happen.”

When students are under constant or excessive stress because of academic difficulties, parents should step in. Some students are held to unrealistic standards by themselves or by adults. Others have fallen behind because they were distracted by the pandemic, failed to study effectively, or are dealing with a learning disability that has yet to be identified. Teachers should be contacted by parents to keep them updated on their children’s progress. Identifying the problem’s nature will lead to the most effective solution.

Technology

A good attitude toward shiny screens and blinking buttons can be taught to children in the following ways.

Screen Time

It’s possible to raise a child who doesn’t have access to screens, but, let’s face it, you’re reading this on one now. When it comes to planning a family vacation, finding the right balance between what you want and what you can afford can be a challenge. In the wake of the pandemic, many families had to rethink their rules and practices, as everything from family dinners to math class became virtual. Additionally, you may be inspired to think about other ways to incorporate screens into your children’s lives in the future, such as setting up regular family movie nights, reading a book on an iPad, or FaceTiming with relatives who live far away. When we talk about technology these days, we’re referring to everything from sleep to school to socialize, and that’s just the beginning.

There are many benefits to using technology, but it is only a tool, says co-author Scott Steinberg in his book, “The Modern Parent’s Guide to Facebook.” A lot of what we’re teaching about technology-assisted parenting is, in his words, “basic parenthood.” “It all comes down to the Golden Rule: Do they treat others with respect and empathy?”

According to Ana Homayoun, author of “Social Media Wellness: Helping Tweens and Tweens Thrive in an Unbalanced Digital World,” phones and social media give older kids opportunities to reckon with responsibilities they haven’t had before, like being sent or asked to share an inappropriate image. For the sake of their children, parents must continue to discuss this aspect of life with them.

Then there’s the issue of ensuring that family time is protected. Mr. Steinberg advises parents to set rules about when their children can use electronic devices and have age-appropriate policies in place so that children know what they can and cannot do.

All ages, including parents, can benefit from some of these policies:

  • There will be no cell phones allowed at the dinner table this evening.
  • One hour before going to bed, turn off all electronic devices.

If you preach what you practice, you’ll be more likely to be taken seriously. To help your family re-establish some of these rules as students return to school, you can have a family discussion about the importance of good device use while also establishing some boundaries. To that end, parents should sit down with their children and monitor what they’re doing online rather than relying on them to act as babysitters while they’re away from home.

Parents as Digital Role Models

Ms. Homayoun advised parents to pause before posting on social media about something their child did that might embarrass the child. If so, what are your intentions behind posting it?

Keeping your child’s information private is just as important as keeping your own and your loved ones’ information private. Consider a “no butts” policy when posting pictures of a naked toddler. It’s possible that in 15 years, your child won’t want to project that image.

“We need to teach kids what consent looks like from a very young age,” Ms. Homayoun said. When a child turns 15, 16, or 17, that’s when it starts. When a child is three years old and refuses to hug his uncle, the problem begins. To avoid posting the video of him crying over a lost teddy bear.

We have a responsibility to prepare our children for the digital footprints they will leave as they grow up. One way to do this is to respect their privacy and hold them to the same standards throughout their lives.

Tech Toys

You may think that high-tech toys are nothing more than gizmos and bells and whistles, but if you look for more educational options, you can find toys that help your child grow. But when it comes to toddlers and preschoolers, there’s a lot to be said for letting them play with nondigital versions of toys like blocks and puzzles as much as possible. A new generation of high-tech games has emerged to foster creative expression and critical thinking in children as they grow older.

“You can use these high-tech games as a way to connect with your children.” Listen to what they have to say,” Mr. Steinberg advised. In some games, kids are encouraged to lead or be a part of a team. “You can’t always throw globs of paint around the house, but you can in the digital world,” he said, referring to the fact that parents can appreciate this.

The Right Age for a Phone?

According to Mr. Steinberg, “Many experts would say it’s about 13, but the more practical answer is when they need one: When they’re outside your direct supervision.” Specifically, Ms. Homayoun recommends them for children who may have to travel between homes and attend late sports practices.

Consider starting with a flip phone and reminding children that privileges and responsibilities go hand in hand. Increasing the amount of personal technology a child has access to should be tied to teaching them how to properly use it.

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